Break of dawn

Married, for little over two weeks by now. We didn´t have our honeymoon yet, but it still feels like a honeymoon. I have found myself just going around with a silly happy smile on my face. I have been looking at pictures over and over again. I have been anxiously waiting for pictures from our own wedding photographer and most of all, I have been enjoying the company of my husband.

Since I tend to write long texts. I thought I would split my blog into smaller topics. I have lots of pictures to show and alot to say. I shall start by telling about the wedding morning.

For you who were our guests at the wedding, we have a picture album I shall share thrue email and Facebook. Please, thouse of you who will get the link during this week, share the knowledge with others, since I might not have everyones email. So, you guests will get to see all the wonderful captures from the day already.

Wedding morning

My two bridesmaids and personal assistant arrived at my home roughly around 8 am. Darling mr J left to spend the morning with his family and brothers in the hotel at the center. Bridesmaids had bought some delicious breakfast and sparkling wine to go with it. We started off easily, talking, eating and drinking. Then my bridesmaid miss A started with my makeup. She is a self-learned makeup professional. So she has watched a lot of tutorials and done a bridal makeup for her friend the previous summer and mostly for herself. I had originally planned to have a professional do it, but they failed to convince me of their talents in the testing makeup, so we came up with a perfect solution. She made me a dazzling natural looking makeup.

Makeup and hair ready

Assassin´s Creed, the sisterhood

Why wear wedding shoes when you can go barefoot?

Next was my other personal assistant miss H, who came to make me a hairstyle for the wedding day. She has a hairdresser’s degree and experience from that line. So, no wonder the hair became really wonderful and all in just over an hour. While I was being pampered, my bridesmaids were taking care of themselves and of course we enjoyed our sparkling wine. 

Lucky kiss from Siwa the cat

Also Leo got a little grooming. My maid of Honor miss R got her boyfriend to help with transporting Leo from the wedding spot. This had been actually a thing bothering till the very last week. What to do with Leo? From the very beginning I had played with an idea to have Leo be part of the wedding. It would be so nice to have him as our ring carrier, maybe instead of stealing the bride it would be stealing the dog and of course to get some pictures with Leo for our own album. But having a dog at a wedding isn`t that simple. Have to think about who takes care of him during the day. Who makes sure he gets food, who makes sure he doesn´t poop in the wrong places. Would we keep him free in the wedding place or on a leash? 

kuva: Juha Kauppinen

Then again, who would take care of Leo if he wasn´t at the wedding? Mainly all our helpers with Leo were invited to the wedding. So, miss R´s boyfriend came to pick up Leo after the wedding ceremony and few pictures were taken. This way we got to have Leo be part of our wedding, he also had his time out, got food when he got home (and the cat also). Originally my family didn´t seem thrilled about the idea of having Leo be part of the wedding. Even I had small doubts at the wedding morning. What if Leo would not behave nicely? What if he would poop when coming to the aisle or what if he would bark a lot? Luckily he behaved really well and the only thing he did, was move around miss A, instead of staying still. And the only time he barked was after the ceremony, when everyone clapped hands. So people thought that was just funny and a correct time to bark.

There was a problem

We (me and mr J) had given the groomsmen one task. Their clothing. And even with that task I had tried to be flexible. We wanted them to have green. Originally we hoped for green vests and a green tie, but nowhere could the vest be found. We even searched from Finland. So, next option was to have white shirt and green tie or even green shirt and green tie. Simple right? The least they needed to do, was to get a green tie. Later we had heard that they had bought a shirt and it came with a black tie. We said DEFINITELY NO to the black tie. It did not fit with our vision of the wedding. Black is for funerals and disco style. This was a summer wedding.

What did we find out on the wedding morning? They had not gotten anything that we had asked. They had blueish shirts and the black ties. Seriously. This was infuriating. It might seem like a small thing. But still, it was the one and only thing asked to do. When planning a wedding, often there is some colors for the wedding, and now they had decided to not care what the couple wanted and gone with their own colors. I must say, it did not make me happy. And it did not make mr J happy. It was really sad, that at the wedding morning mr J had to go around the city center, looking for ties for the grooms. He ended up buying white ties, since it would match at least abit with our colors. Ties were expensive. If we had known from the beginning, that they had not found ties to match the colors, we could have found good ties for 5 euros. Now mr J had to pay 45 euros for each tie.

All in all, the clothing problem was not taken lightly, but the end result was nice. Groomsmen helped with the programs, mr F even gave a short speech and luckily the morning episode didn´t seem to effect the days atmosphere.

kuva: Juha Kauppinen

Next blog will be mostlikely about the wedding ceremony, photoshoot and some of the program. And the final part is about the wedding dance, evening program and about the band.

I will leave here some taste of the things to come

Photos by amazing photographer Juha Kauppinen. Check his portfolio from here

Week from now

So the time flyes. It seems like only 3 months ago that we got engaged, but actually it is over 2 years ago and next Saturday we have said the words, danced the dances and spend a evening with dear friends and close family. Probably some tears will be shead and hopefully a lot of laughter, hugs and smiles.

It feels almost surreal to think that next week at this time we are a married couple. We have made a promise in front of people that we will love eachother no matter what, ups and downs. Support eachother and give also time for ourself. Week from now we have promised in front of people to spend the rest of our lives together. I really wanna belive we will make it. Even though we have our fights, our different natures and tempers. I belive in us. I belive we can learn to live with our quarkiness and find new sides also. Fall in love over and over again. We will learn to understand eachother more and more. We will learn to hurt eachother, but hopefully also to help, support and forgive. We will learn to not get too upset over little things and sometimes we will forget what we have learned. In the end, what is most important, is to remember why we have choosen to live the rest of our lives with the person next to us. We might not always see the person we love under all the hectik life we are living, that is why we also have friends, family and my photo albums to remind us of who we are.

It is so easy to forget what weddings are about, when there is so much planning, money spend, color choises, flower picking, paper cutting.. We have everything we need ready. We have the two people, me and mr. J, we have a person to make us legally married and we have people we care to witness that. That is what in its raw material wedding is about. All the other, all the stress, is just extra. It is the suger topping on a cake.

We do also have the ”suger topping” in really good shape. We have clothes, i have all my make up and nail colors decided, table decorations, musics decided, playlists done, quests confirmed coming etc. Things are so well, that I have actually managed to watch all 8 Harry Potter movies during this week. During some movies, I did also do some wedding paper cutting. Multitasking is almost every ladies name. It is nice to notice how my family has come to help in the preporations too. They deserve a great thank you for all their help so far and to come.

A bumppy road

I already mentioned in an earlier post, that wedding dress didn´t go as planned. Seems there has been some theme a long the way in having to find a plan B. I had booked a wedding make up from a company. I had my trial make up and it didn´t go at all as I had asked. I asked for light, natural looking makeup, but ended up getting really heavy 80´s style makeup. They didn´t even try to change it more while I was at the trial makeup, so I found my self not feeling comfortable with the idea that they would make my wedding day makeup. Luckily my dear bridesmaid agreed to help. She had already done a makeup for me for my bachelorette party and she has done makeup previous summer to her other friends wedding. So it was of to shopping some makeup for my skin type and she made a fabilous trial makeup! 

During the week I had my bachelorette party, I managed to fell and hurt my leg so bad, that I couldn´t stand at all. I needed to people to help me at the toilet. It was not the best option for a bachelorette party, but with Joery ranning to help when needed, we made it happen. It didn´t bother me at all to have him come every once in a while to help. What really bothered was the hangover the next day. I am too old for homemade-pocahontas-friends mixed drinks! 

Joerys journey has also not been totally easy. We have searched around the city for a orange undershirt. No orange, atleast not his size. We found one, but it was actually too light orange and ment for a lot slimmer body type. We had already lost our hope since all the shops in Jyväskylä had been chearched. We decided to go with more neutral color. When we went to search for the more neutral colored, there it was. 2 orange shirts. Correct color! It was a happy ending after all

Originally we also had problems with our internet giftlist. It turned out, that the website had not been updated in a while and when we tried to contact the website makers, the message returned back like a bummerang. We were worried that we would have to try to info everysingle quest to type wrong dates just to get in to the gift list. Since we already had sent the invitations. But by some miracle, the next day the website had been updated and the problem was solved. It had stolen a nights sleeps from me, but luckily that was the only trouble.

I am hoping, that all the smaller and bigger problems that have occured along the way, will mean that at our wedding day there will be no problems at all -A girl can dream.

What is going in my mind now week before the long planned day?

My biggest worrie is just, that I want everyone to have good time. I have tried to prepare myself as

well as possible to think, that something bad can happen. Maybe food will drop on my clothes or on joerys clothes. Maybe rings get forgotten at home. Maybe our wedding dance will get ruined, maybe people don´t like the food or maybe people don´t understand why we wanted to take the potrets pictures after the wedding seremony and will hate us for making them wait… There is so many things that can go bad. I think my remedy in getting over of all the worring has actually been the movies. Watching movies gives my brains a time to relax and worrie about fictional characters instead of our own reality.

I am worried that I will cry so much, that any words I would need to say will just not come out. I am worried that my chair breaks just a day before the wedding. I am worried of so many things, and none of the things is something I can really do anything about. It is time to take time and belive, that day will be great. Maybe not Perfect day, but it will be a day I can look afterwards with a smile on my face while hugging my husband.